Dear Abby Hits The Nail On The Head Regarding Mediated Divorces

On March 27, 2011, someone wrote in to Dear Abby explaining that he wanted to mediate his divorce, and his wife told him if he wanted a divorce, he would need to get a lawyer.  Abby, in her infinite wisdom responded: I have seen both kinds of divorces — one in which the warring spouses spent so much money in litigation there was little left for each of them when it was over; and the other, in which the couple agreed their marriage was broken beyond repair and arranged their divorce with as … [Read more...]

What Happens in an Arizona Divorce Mediation: Step By Step (Part Two)

This Article is the second part in a two part series describing in detail the Arizona divorce mediation process.  Please read Part One before reading this article. Link to Part 1 4.     During the mediation session, I also gather the information I need to draft the Petition for Dissolution package.  One of you will choose to be the Petitioner (the person who is the initial filer) and the other one will be the Respondent.  At the end of the session, you and/or your spouse pay me for the time … [Read more...]

How to Prepare for a Mediation in AZ

The Boy Scout’s motto - Be Prepared – applies to mediation in Phoenix AZ.   Below are four ideas of how you can prepare yourself for a successful mediation. 1.     Understand what is not worth fighting about. Before refusing to bend on an issue, ask yourself:  Is this an issue really worth fighting about, or is it something I am willing to concede to get some other benefit?  Some people spend thousands of dollars fighting over an issue worth fifty dollars.  If the issue is not worth thousands … [Read more...]

Are There Different types of Mediation in AZ?

Different mediators in Arizona employ different styles of mediation. The most well known in the divorce mediation process is called “facilitative.” This means the mediator guides parties toward their own solutions. The mediator helps the parties develop and analyze possible settlements. This style is preferred by mediation participants who want a more laid back mediation where the parties have the power to reach their own solutions. Some mediators are more “evaluative.” This means the … [Read more...]

Divorce Arizona – If Mediation Is So Great, Why Doesn’t Everyone In Arizona Use It?

Mediation is effective at resolving disputes quickly, inexpensively and confidentially.  Around 90 percent of all people who try mediation end their conflict in mediation. You read that correctly:  almost all mediations are successful – no risky and expensive litigation necessary. Then why isn’t everyone using mediation in AZ?  First, many people do not even know mediation is an option.  Many think the only way to deal with a conflict is to sue or suffer.  Further, businesses and … [Read more...]

What are the costs for an Arizona Divorce?

The answer to this question is dependent on the method you choose to dissolve your marriage, as well as the complexity of your case. The Basics:  In every Arizona divorce, there are filing fees charged by the Court.  The person who initiates the divorce has a $321.00 filing fee.  The other party has a $256.00 filing fee.  However, either party may qualify for a deferral or waiver of Court fees if financial circumstances support that request.  If the parties have children, they also need … [Read more...]

How Can You Afford to Hire A Lawyer in this economy? Phoenix Arizona

When Going to court in Arizona can cost tens to hundreds of thousands of dollars, who can afford pay to litigate in this current economy?  Okay, who can afford to litigate other than corporations that received TARP money? Conflicts do not generally disappear when money is short supply.  Typically, more conflicts tend to arise when money is short.  It has been said that money problems are one of the top reasons for relationship issues.  Further, with a bad economy, more people are failing to … [Read more...]

Why Arizona Attorneys Should Encourage their Client’s to Mediate with a Private Mediator

What Arizona attorneys want, more than anything else, are happy, satisfied clients. Happy, satisfied clients make attorneys’ jobs fulfilling.  These types of clients are also more likely to pay their bills, not complain and refer their friends and colleagues to their attorneys. Attorneys who use mediation in Arizona are more likely to have happy, satisfied clients.  With mediation, there is no losing party.  The clients save money, time and the stress of a trial, and they have the … [Read more...]

How Do Property and Assets Get Divided In An Arizona Divorce Mediation? – Mediation Divorce Arizona

When couples accrue property during the Arizona marriage in any way other than gift or inheritance(community property), they need an effective manner to divide that property during the divorce.   Arizona law requires an “equitable” (near equal) division of community property.  However, the Court generally sanctions any reasonable division, and mediation gives the parties more of an opportunity to get creative in the division.  Further, mediation offers a calm and amicable environment to discuss … [Read more...]

How Do I Get The Other Party To Try Mediation?

You have decided that mediation is the best route to resolve your dispute.  Now what?  All parties to a dispute must agree to mediate, as it is a voluntary process.  Therefore, your goal is now to convince the other party or parties that mediation is in their best interests as well.  The easiest way to do this is to print out information for the other party about the benefits of mediation, or simply direct the party to  This writer offers free mediation consultations that both … [Read more...]

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